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A friend of mine who will remain nameless has inspired me to write the article. She’s a great girl, smart and pretty albeit slightly pathetic. Her last relationship was over a year ago with an average, banal kitchen manager for a slight three months. Three months, that’s it and she’s still dwelling on this guy. Dwelling on the why the relationship ended and who he may be dating now. She even stalks him on the internet occasionally. I’m not sure why she hasn’t been able to let this go, but there are a few mistakes that she’s made getting over this past relationship that no one should repeat if they are determined to move on.
First you must cut off all contact with your ex. I can’t stress this enough. The only way for you to get over the person is to slowly, but surely forget why you liked them in the first place. Delete their number from your phone so you are tempted to drunk dial or text them when you’re feeling lonely, friendly, frisky ect. You will most certainly regret doing so the next morning. If they text, call or email you, ignore them. Silence speaks volumes and they will get the point and perhaps they will regret breaking your heart problem symptoms in the first place.
In addition to cutting off phone and email, completely cut them off of any social networking sites you belong to. Delete them and do not add them again. Force yourself not to look on their profile like my friend. It will only depress you when you find that they have moved on before you have.
Next get rid of any stuff that reminds you of them. It can anything from receipts to clothing. If you met through work, you may want to start looking for a new job if you find it to be unbearable.
Once you’ve completely removed this person from your life, it’s time to start dating again. Dating someone new is exciting and it’s the best way for you to completely move forward and on with your life. Cuddle up with a completely new person and give him or her a new chance. If you don’t, you end up like my sad friend who is still pining for a guy she hasn’t seen in over a year and barely knew in the first place.
